Paying attention to your self allows you to calm down, look inwards so that you may heal and improve yourself. It also helps you get to know yourself, so that you can take care of yourself more effectively and also be more aware of what you want in relation to others. Then you can say no to what harms you and yes to what helps you flourish and become happier, healthier and more wholesome. You take responsibility for and fulfill many of your own needs.
Paying attention to others allows you to listen, nurture, understand and welcome. It makes you kind, thoughtful, charming and gracious. Others will want to spend time with you, please you and dote on you. You attract attention and others willingly help you to meet your needs, because they enjoy seeing you happy.
When you give attention to yourself and others, you need not demand attention agressively, your needs are not ignored or ridiculed. Much of the less attractive behaviours in women happen when there is fear around unmet needs. Preventing this state, by doing yoga, making a healthy snack, resting and generally taking time for yourself, ensures you behave in more attractive ways. Be selfish this afternoon so that you may be unselfish tonight 🙂