Sugar spice and all things nice can get cloysome if they don’t have a twist of wickedness lurking beneath the surface. That may be a surprise coming from me, as most of my articles focus on how to be a good, sensible girl and a lady. However, there is a big difference between being a good, ladylike woman, and being a repressed, too nice girl. Knowing the rules adds to your charm, being too fearful to break them detracts from it.
Here are a few ways to unleash this power:
Don’t play nice when you really don’t want to, don’t set your own desires aside. because it would only breed resentment. Anger can be sexy, but resentment never is. Resentments plays at a sense of obligation, and whatever one should or ought is never seductive. Far more alluring is to let out dissatisfaction quickly and charmingly. Be the girl who looks cute when she is cross or passionately furious.
Do something dangerous or be a danger to someone. Danger raises the hormone levels and thus physically excites people. We admire people who take risks, because without them, things would simply stay as they are. Risk takers sometimes lose, but when they win, they will big and revolutionize the world. Still water may look safe, but it becomes putrid when it remains still for too long. Rock the boat.
Do something frivolous and feckless. It also puts people at ease to know that you are not always perfect and sensible. They feel inferior and uneasy in front of those who are too mature, too sensible. Do not assume too many rules, but rather do as you please when something is not explicitly forbidden. Ask forgiveness rather than permission